Share the knowledge
I always heard that I’ll have 18 summers to do things with my kids. Well, I have to say, even being a travel adviser that’s not always the case. This past Spring Break, my 15-year-old didn’t come with us on that family vacation. There were a couple of reasons. First, he didn’t want to go on a cruise ship, (yes he is my child) and second, he already has his “things” to do. Now could I have forced him to go and have him sit and pout and ruin the vacation for the rest of us, yes, but I didn’t think that it was fair to my other two and to my husband, me and to the oldest.
This made me realize something, we always said that we were going to put off that big vacation until they were older for them to enjoy it more, or to remember a part of it. Or we were going to save for that big thing first and then take the big vacation. As I’m getting closer and closer to letting one child go on his own I’m realizing that the memories that I wanted to create weren’t always just for him, but for me.
When the boys were 4 and 8 we took them to Walt Disney World. Some people told me that they were too young and that they won’t remember it. True, they only remember tidbits here and there, but I’m so glad that I took the time to go. I have the memories that last, and I can recall them to my kids and someday my grandkids. If I would have waited until now, my oldest would definitely not go - he hates large crowds. And my younger two, well they are out of the “magical” stage - they don’t get into the characters like they did when they were younger. So, yes, I spent that time and money for a vacation memory more for me, but I’m glad I did that. They will watch the home movies, look at the pictures, hear the story of how they marched at the end of the parade with the characters and how we had a wonderful time.
This summer we are taking another family vacation, and this time he is going with us. I can’t tell you how much I’m looking forward to having all of my boys with me. There will be the “Mom… Mommmm” and as much as at the moment I might be “Uggh” it’s well worth every moment. As I tell Mark now, I want to take all of these last vacations as our boys are getting into those teenage years. Once the jobs, girlfriends, and responsibilities start coming we can’t just take off on our two schedules, we will have more to accommodate. I want to show them the world and see it through their eyes still. I know that time is a very precious thing and something that money can’t buy. I need to spend that time with them while I have it.