My husband and I have recently ran into a problem, we can’t find a time that fits into both of our schedules to get away. I find sometime that fits into my schedule and he can’t get away. My oldest tells me, “Mom why can’t you and Dad just get away? We’ll be fine, we’ll be at Grandmas. I think you need to get away.” It’s amazing how much a 14 year old gets it.
There are so many stresses in life, and so many things to get done on a daily basis it’s crazy. You know what I mean, grocery shopping, laundry, pick kids up kids from one activity to another, oh and being the “Muber”. That’s my version of Mom Uber. Take me here, take me there, “Oh Mom, my buddy wants me to come over and play basketball this afternoon.” For my husband and me it’s times three. I hate to admit this, however sometimes my relationship with my husband comes last.
And although we do enjoy a good date night, sometimes we need a few days to just relax and rekindle. Sometimes you NEED more than a few hours to remember what it’s like to NOT be a parent or a “Muber”, or the cleaning lady, or working on the next project to be with your honey to rekindle that romance.
For those of you who don’t know me very well, I’m a very active mom. However, when I go away with my husband, I turn the boys over to my Mom. I’m not going to give my age away, but let me put it this way, she raised me, and I’m still here, happy and healthy. So I give them to her more than willing, capable, and loving hands. When we get to our resort, we call her and the boys to let her know that we arrived safely. We make sure that she knows our room or cabin number, and that she can get ahold of us on our cells incase of an emergency. If we are gone for a weekend, we normally call her on our way back home. If it’s longer we only check in one other time. Now I know that may sound crazy, however this is our time to reconnect. We NEVER forget about our kids, however we both feel that we OWE it to our kids to reconnect and be a couple. We parent better, we get along better, and life is better for them and for us.
There is another reason that this is important for the kids. They get to have a special relationship and time with their grandparents. Now when they stay with either my mom or my husband’s parents, they get to have that special one on one time with them. Plus their aunts and uncles come over to spend a few hours with them. It’s something that over the years they have come to look forward to and love to have. They call it “Grandma Vacation”.
I’m so glad that we are teaching our kids that even though they mean the world to us, that we mean the world to us as well. Way before we brought these three people into our lives there was the two of us, and long after they move on with their lives there will still be the two of us. I’m glad that they are learning that we need to nurture our relationship, and keep it growing. Hopefully that’s one lesson they can take with them when they move on and find their own love.
And until next time.
One of my favorite commercials ever was from Disney Cruise Lines. There was a little boy with his mom, and baby brother inside an elevator, and the little boy talks all about the fun he had on his cruise and then at the end he says his parents call his baby brother their “souvenir”.
Let me tell you a little secret, you don’t have to be alone just the two of you to have a romantic vacation. Although I am a HUGE supporter of having vacation time alone to reignite the spark of romance, being a mom of three, I realize that you don’t always get that time alone to make the spark happen. Especially when it comes to vacation time! That’s why when picking a vacation destination for the whole family it’s like a matchmaking service. I’ll explain….
When someone wants to go to a resort or on a cruise, you want to find something for everyone and something that will keep the kiddos happy and maybe even some time to make new friends in a supervised kids club or activity so that mom and dad get that all precious alone time. For someone like me with super active boys it would be totally different than someone who has younger kids. A good example, I’m not as concerned about a resort having a tot lot, however I do care if they have supervised teen activities. Not that my kids will be there all day, however my boys are at an age where they do want some freedom, and I DO NOT want them running around a resort without anything to do. My one son LOVES sports, any kind of sports, the oldest likes golf, and my other son dabbles in archery and will try golf here and there. For us, I like Club Med, with all of their sports clinics and activities there is something to keep those guys busy and we get a little time away for us. Then at the end of the day we all get to be together as a family. However for someone who doesn’t have kids who likes sports, and has kids who would prefer chilling and the whole family are into the food experience I would suggest a Karisma property instead.
Even if you are taking a trip that isn’t at a resort, or on a cruise you can still sneak in a dinner or afternoon lunch for the two of you. When working with your travel professional and creating that perfect vacation let them know that you want a little romance in your family vacation. They will find a resort that offers babysitting service so that you can get some alone time for a couple of hours, and let’s face it you deserve it!
Here at Shores and More Travel, I realize that reconnecting is one of the most important reasons that we travel. The journey is not just on the map, it’s the memories and connections that we create while we travel.
And until next time,
I get asked a lot of what would I do if I could do ANYTHING in the world while in the Riviera Maya. Now, being a mom of three VERY active boys, my first response is sitting on a beach under a palpa, with a good book, and a wonderful fruity drink forgetting the time, and listening to some good music is about my speed. However, if you know me, as much as I LOVE to do that I also want to go out and explore and try something new. So, after a good day of my favorite thing of doing nothing and being waited on, these are the things that I would do while in the Riviera Maya.
3:) Day excursion to the Chichen Itza. Mark and I went there on our honeymoon. I have to admit it was AH-Mazing!!! This is the second most visited archaeological site of Mexico today. And the Kukulkan Pyramid, or “El Castillo” (the castle), is the highlight of Chichen Itza, and was selected as one of the new seven wonders of the world in 2007. In addition to the pyramid there are many other archaeological sites to visit at Chichen Itza all representing traces of the beautiful Mayan Culture.
2:) Taking a Dolphin Experience, whether it’s a swim, foot push or just meeting up and close with a dolphin, it’s one of those once in a lifetime things that was a definite must do. Mark and I enjoyed our dolphin experience, it was a busy day, between the sit down demonstration and learning about what you are going to experience, to getting fitted for your life vest and then actually getting to the area where you get into the water with the dolphins. I have to admit that they are truly a gift of nature. I can’t wait to take my boys someday to experience a dolphin interaction.
1:) Sunset Cocktail Cruise. What a way to end a busy day..enjoying the sunset and sipping on a cocktail while sailing with your sweetie. I do have to admit, there’s something romantic about a cocktail cruise. And while in the Riviera Maya they have a wonderful Catamaran Sunset Cocktail Cruise. And maybe even catching a couple of snuggles and kisses too.
It’s best to make sure that you schedule excursions before you leave so that you are not disappointed if your excursion is sold out. Another benefit of planning them ahead of time with your travel agent is that we use trusted partners to make sure that you have the best time possible. We are always here to be your travel advocate.
And until next time,
Tina Moczynski is a member of the GTN network. And loves to travel with both her husband and her three boys.