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My husband and I have recently ran into a problem, we can’t find a time that fits into both of our schedules to get away. I find sometime that fits into my schedule and he can’t get away. My oldest tells me, “Mom why can’t you and Dad just get away? We’ll be fine, we’ll be at Grandmas. I think you need to get away.” It’s amazing how much a 14 year old gets it.
There are so many stresses in life, and so many things to get done on a daily basis it’s crazy. You know what I mean, grocery shopping, laundry, pick kids up kids from one activity to another, oh and being the “Muber”. That’s my version of Mom Uber. Take me here, take me there, “Oh Mom, my buddy wants me to come over and play basketball this afternoon.” For my husband and me it’s times three. I hate to admit this, however sometimes my relationship with my husband comes last.
And although we do enjoy a good date night, sometimes we need a few days to just relax and rekindle. Sometimes you NEED more than a few hours to remember what it’s like to NOT be a parent or a “Muber”, or the cleaning lady, or working on the next project to be with your honey to rekindle that romance.
For those of you who don’t know me very well, I’m a very active mom. However, when I go away with my husband, I turn the boys over to my Mom. I’m not going to give my age away, but let me put it this way, she raised me, and I’m still here, happy and healthy. So I give them to her more than willing, capable, and loving hands. When we get to our resort, we call her and the boys to let her know that we arrived safely. We make sure that she knows our room or cabin number, and that she can get ahold of us on our cells incase of an emergency. If we are gone for a weekend, we normally call her on our way back home. If it’s longer we only check in one other time. Now I know that may sound crazy, however this is our time to reconnect. We NEVER forget about our kids, however we both feel that we OWE it to our kids to reconnect and be a couple. We parent better, we get along better, and life is better for them and for us.
There is another reason that this is important for the kids. They get to have a special relationship and time with their grandparents. Now when they stay with either my mom or my husband’s parents, they get to have that special one on one time with them. Plus their aunts and uncles come over to spend a few hours with them. It’s something that over the years they have come to look forward to and love to have. They call it “Grandma Vacation”.
I’m so glad that we are teaching our kids that even though they mean the world to us, that we mean the world to us as well. Way before we brought these three people into our lives there was the two of us, and long after they move on with their lives there will still be the two of us. I’m glad that they are learning that we need to nurture our relationship, and keep it growing. Hopefully that’s one lesson they can take with them when they move on and find their own love.
And until next time.