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I have a deep dark confession to make. Mark and I haven’t been on a weekend getaway ALONE in a long time. We were busy with the kids activities, scouts, work, and just about anything that you could think of.
Then it happened, I said enough is ENOUGH!! We need to get away. Grandma took the boys, Mark took a half day on a Friday and we just bummed, I always wanted to go to a local festival, then we came home, packed a bag, I booked a hotel and we left.
Why am I telling you this? Because I feel like travel is like another muscle, if we don’t use it we lose it. There is a sense of adventure in all of us that we like to fulfill. There is a reason that most of us look at others vacation photos on social media, or watch shows on destinations. We love the idea of going somewhere new and having new experiences. Whether it’s a weekend road trip or a week’s or longer vacation to an exotic destination, we all have a need to explore.
The “EXCUSE” factor. Just like we have an excuse factor of going to the gym, we have an excuse factor of why we don’t want to go on that vacation or that getaway. When I don’t feel like going to the gym, the first day I’ll give myself an excuse and the next day the excuses just get easier to handle. It’s the same with travel. These are my favorite excuses, and the reasons why I really can’t use them:
“We can’t get away, what if the kids have an event that comes up?” It’s not like they don’t have fifty more, and I have someone who can fill in for us at that event. I have a close friend who misses an event once a while and as she puts it, “ I go to almost all of their events, they know that I love them, and if I miss a game or an event it’s okay.” I totally agree, in their entire life they are not going to remember if you missed one or two games or scouting events or band practices. Plus when we get back we will parent better and that will be better for our kids.
“Well, I can’t get away because of work.” That one is my favorite, especially in today’s day and age. We have internet, wifi, and data hotspots. If there is an emergency we can be reached. Don’t get me wrong there are weekends or weeks that we definitely can’t go, but for the most part, we can. Did you realize that 25 percent of Americans took ZERO vacation days last year?? Wow!! For a society where we can connect from anywhere, it seems like we never leave to even try out that theory. And when we get away we come back refreshed and inspired with new ideas, what employer doesn’t want you at a higher working level?
“Well, I don’t have the money for it.” That excuse is there too, I always tell Mark, let’s save for it, a vacation\getaway fund is something that we have always had in the background. It’s something that is a necessary to save for. I know that I’ve said it before, but when we travel alone we spend time together and we get back into alignment with each other. When we get home, we get along better - we communicate more, and we parent better. I tell him all the time even when the kids are gone, I want to still be on the go, exploring. It’s the journey that life is about, not just the destination.
I remember a commercial on TV that said, “A body in motion stays in motion.” The same can be said about travel, “A soul that explores stays exploring.”