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I think just about everyone has heard of the show, “The Bachelor”. It puts a guy and one of many women in a perfect local for a perfect date. And of course they fall “in love”. And yes, while watching it and folding laundry, or washing dishes you can say, “Well yeah, you can have a perfect romance if you just have that perfect situation and not have to deal with everyday life, it’s like having instant gratification.”
Sometimes I think our everyday romances need that as well. Sometimes we need to take time out from that laundry, dishes, job and kids to make time for that “instant gratification”. Sometimes we need that getaway, that hidden kisses, or that “rose ceremony” that gives us that smile and reminds us of that feeling that we had when we first fell in love. Because what we are looking for really isn’t instant gratification, but the feeling of what we felt like when we first fell in love with our sweetheart. And let’s face it if it feels good, we’ll do it again and again.
Yes, I say it all the time “Love is a journey.” And although it is a journey, the journey is made up many moments good and bad put together. I know that when I look back on the years with Mark, it’s not all the “rose ceremony” moments, I also look at the times that we went through like staying up all night feeding newborn twin boys. It’s learning how to grow with each other as we change and grow as individuals. It’s also Mark sneaking me out for a date night for martini’s and a comedy show because he knows I LOVE a good laugh. It’s the entire journey, not just the vacations together (although I do love sitting on a beach…) or the wedding day, or the day our kids were born, it’s all the mundane days in between. That’s what truly makes up the journey.
So if you need and want and are looking for the “instant gratification” moments with your sweetheart, don’t feel bad. It’s not that you don’t love your journey, it’s just sometimes we need that feeling again. It’s not a bad thing, and we shouldn’t feel bad about it. It feels good, and we should enjoy that part of the journey.
And until next time - don’t forget - Love is the journey!