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Remember that song, “I just called to say I love you… I just called to say how much I cared….”. Sometimes when we are in long term relationships I think we forget to do just that. I know that I do. I was just cleaning out my nightstand the other day and I started looking at my “Memory Bag”. You see I have this zippered pouch that has notes that started with my husband, Mark and now contains notes from my three boys. Let me explain.
I’m not a Hallmark person. Yes, I know this is another one of my deep dark secrets, however, I was always like, please don’t spend six dollars to tell me you love me. Now, however, I kinda like the fact that Mark cares enough to spend the time in the card store to pick out just the right card. You see he won’t get just any card it has to say JUST WHAT HE’S FEELING. So, I really appreciate the ones that he gets me. After all these years we still joke about the cost of the card, as it helps me from the tearing up. Although, I have to admit, my favorite items in there from Mark is when he writes me notes and leaves them for me on my pillow when he goes to work. Nothing too sappy, just telling me how much he appreciates what I do for him and the boys and wishing me a good day. Those are the kinds of things that I have come to really appreciate about Mark and realize over the years are more precious than flowers and chocolates or fancy jewels. These are the little things that he gives me that lets me know that he loves me.
What’s even better is that he’s teaching this to our boys. Our son Ben is a sports NUT, and I mean NUT. One year when his favorite baseball team, the Milwaukee Brewers were doing really bad, Mark wrote him a note of encouragement in his lunchbox. He LOVED it! Then Zach wanted a note too. This started a note exchange just about every day. They would leave notes and would want a note in their lunch boxes.
Which full circles back to me, last Mother’s Day, the kids made gifts and cards at school. The week leading up to Mother’s Day I had a retreat in Mexico that I was traveling to. So, Mark took the boys shopping and in addition they all made me cards and wrote notes for me when I came back home. I have to admit that was the best thing ever! To have the boys write down how much they missed me and thanking me for being a great mom. I’m so thankful that Mark has passed this gift down to the boys. I know that I need to be better at writing notes and over the years I’ve worked on it and it’s something that I’ve even learned from him as well.
So even if you don’t write notes, even that quick text, or anyway that you can tell your loved one that you appreciate them, love them, and are thinking of them, is a great way to keep that flame going between the two of you. And once you have kids it’s a good way to show them that you appreciate each other and them as well.
And until next time…..