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I normally write tips about vacations and romantic trips away. However this week I’m writing about the romantic date night. Don’t get me wrong reconnecting on a romantic getaway is important and ah-mazing, however just like the show, “The Bachelor” not every day is flying away to an incredible destination, long romantic walks on tropical beaches with fancy drinks and roses. You need to find and make a connection in the everyday life and make time out for each other when you can.
The importance of keeping a close connection on a weekly, even daily basis is so important not only for the two of you but for the entire family. As the old saying goes, when mama’s happy, the whole family is happy.
There are times that Mark and I can’t find a whole night to get out for date night, so what do we do? We sneak time where we can. The boys have religious education one night that lasts about an hour and 45 minutes. On those nights we make sure that we get over to a local restaurant for dinner. It’s a nice time to getaway, chat and catch up.
During the warmer months we take family walks. The boys like to ride their bikes and they go ahead of us, we get to walk hand in hand and talk. We also enjoy our fire pit in the backyard. We have family fire nights, however after the boys go to bed we stay up and enjoy some quiet music at the fire.
Now as our boys are getting older they are staying up later and later. I do miss the days when they were going to bed early so we could stay up and spend time together. We use to love watching a couple of episodes of our favorite TV shows together. I’ll never forget when Ryan was in first grade he told his teacher that his, “Mom and Dad stay up late to watch adult TV.” When his teacher told me this, I busted out laughing and explained that adult TV in my house was anything without talking animals.
As much as I love being a parent, I am still a wife and eventually my boys will grow up and move out of our house. Mark and I will be alone with out them and I still want to enjoy times with him. It’s important to keep our relationship strong so that we can still enjoy each other long after the kids are gone.
When we work on making the day to day connection, and the little sparks when we go out of town the bigger sparks can fly.
And until next time…. Happy travels!