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Here’s a question that I get asked, “My kids are older - should we take them to Disney?”. Or “I’ve never been to Hawaii, and I’m not sure if my kids are old enough yet to appreciate it if I take them.”. These are normal questions that I get asked, I’m not sure if the price of the vacation is worth the investment. The biggest questions are 1:) Will they remember it? 2:) Are they going to appreciate and enjoy it? 3:) Maybe I’ll wait till later or until they are older?
I wanted to tell you from the experiences that I’ve had and from clients that have returned have told me.
1:) Will they remember it?
Everyone wants to have that memorable family vacation. Disney is the biggest one that everyone thinks of. With our oldest, we took him three times once to Disney World when he was 4 and then to Disney Land when he was 5. And again when he was about 8 and his brothers were 4. Now, do they remember every last detail? No, however, are they the only people in the family? No, my husband and I are. And last I checked we paid for the vacation so we count too. I took tons of pictures and they still look at the pictures. We do talk about it and they enjoyed it. My husband and I cherish the memories and wouldn’t exchange them for anything. Now I have a question for you, do you remember every moment of every vacation that you took as a child? I know that I don’t but my Mom does, and when my father was alive he did as well. Well, at least more than I do. And I’ll be completely honest, when my father passed away, we enjoyed stories of our family vacations during our time of sorrow. What I remembered was completely different than what my sisters and my mom remembered. And that’s what makes them special - everyone has their own memories.
2:) Are they going to appreciate and enjoy it?
Most kids will appreciate it - and enjoy it, if not today in the future. Let’s face it all teenagers and tweens are not the happiest at all times. So, even though you may think that they might not enjoy it they will appreciate it in the end. If it is something that they are very afraid of you may want to change your plans. For example, my oldest was NOT going to go on a cruise, he had no intentions of being on a ship. We tried everything, and since he didn’t want to attend and the rest of the family did, we let him have a pass. I’ll be honest it was weird being a family of four, and I kept looking for him the whole week. However, this next year we are taking an all-inclusive vacation. Now, he’s not too thrilled about spending a week with the family away from his friends, but life will go on and he will be with us. And he will be spending time at the teens club away from us and his brothers but that is okay too. I know that I raised an independent young man, but in the end, we will have dinner as a family and do activities as a family and create family memories.
3:) Maybe I’ll wait till I get older or until they get older.
This is another one that I’ve heard, and I had a client that said this as well. I’m going to hold off on vacation until my daughter is in high school. Then when her daughter entered high school she was in traveling sports and her vacations were all about the sports games. Next came college, and college sports. Then her daughter became engaged and graduated. They finally took a vacation just the two of them, like they did when her daughter was little. Now her daughter is graduated, married, and starting her own family. It’s kinda like the song “Cats in the Cradle”. Sometimes you just have to make the time, the kids grow up before you know it.
Another reason not to hold off is you never know what life holds in store for you. My parents always wanted to take that Alaskan Cruise. My Dad had lung cancer, and unfortunately, he was too sick and couldn’t go. After he passed my Mom ended up going with my sister. Not that she didn’t enjoy going with my sister, but I know how much she and my Dad had made plans to do that vacation.
Vacations can seem like an investment. For me, it’s something that I cherish. You see, I love to travel, that’s a gift that my parents gave me. I’m hoping that I passed that on to my boys. It’s not always just going somewhere to see something, it’s the journey of getting there with the people that you are with.