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When you are married and especially when the children are little it’s really easy to spoil the kids and not your sweetheart. However you should think about leaving the spoiling of the kids to their grandparents and spoil your sweetheart instead. In the end, you’ll be giving your kids a bigger gift. You want your children to grow up in a home that is happy, secure, and loving, that’s what will make them most happy and “spoiled”.
When you “spoil” your sweetheart and your relationship by putting them first it shows your children what a great relationship is made of. Signs of PDA are a good thing for them to see. It’s good for them to see you holding hands, cuddling on the couch, kissing. It’s good for them to see what a positive good loving relationship looks like. I remember when my Dad came home every night my Mom gave him a hug and a kiss and asked him how his day was, and I’m an adult. These are lessons your child will take their entire life.
Make time for each other. At the end of the day, when the kids go to bed, take that hour to watch a TV show, or play a game or do something together that you enjoy. Don’t forget that you are a couple and not PARENTS during that time.
Sometimes when you are a couple and parents you start feeling like you are not coming first that you are last, and if you start giving of yourself selfishly to your spouse, you will see that they will give back to you and it will strengthen those bonds. It doesn’t take tons of money, just little acts of kindness, like when you were dating. Leave little notes for your sweetheart, give them little compliments, sneak a little kiss. It’s amazing how those little things can add up. Don’t nag for what you want, give what you want and see what you get in return.
As my kids are getting older, I’m realizing that it will once again be just Mark and I in a few short years. I’m thankful that I have a sweetheart that wants to be with me and take the time to work on our relationship. We make the time for date night, we still sit on the couch together. Don’t get me wrong we still have our disagreements, and as we tell the boys, “Our marriage may not be perfect, but it works because we keep working on it.”
And until next time remember Love is the Journey.